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serious reflection. Beware of those whc have more nonsense than common sense. Finally, to enter safely into the married state-the contracting parties should understand human nature, and above all, their own dispositions—and then compare them frankly and candidly. If one is alkaline, and the other acid, a frequent effervescence must occur—to be happy under such circumstances, your love must be strong, and religion rule your hearts. The Rock of Ages, is the firmest foundation on which matrimony can rest. The atmosphere of piety is free from many storms and fogs, that overtake and hang over those who are strangers to its purity. I will add the experience of another, for our mutual benefit.

“When people understand they must live together, for reasons known to the law, they learn to soften, by mutual accommodation, the yoke which they cannot now shake off. They become good husbands and wives, from the necessity of remaining husbands and wives; for necessity is a powerful master, in teaching the duty it imposes. If it were once understood, that, upon mutual disgust, married persons might be legally separated, many couple, who now pass through the world with mutual comfort-with attention to their common offspring, and to the moral order of civilized society, might have been, at this moment, living in a state of mutual unkindness-in a state of estrangement from their common offspring, and in a state of the most licentious and unreserved immorality.

“In this case, as in many others, the happiness of some individuals must be sacrificed to the greater and more general good. If people come together, with the extravagant expectation, that all are to be halcyon

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days—the husband conceiving, that all is to be author. ity with him, and the wife, that all is to be accommodation with her, every body sees how that must end. If they come together with the prospect of happiness, they must come with the reflection, that not bringing perfection in themselves, they have no right to expect it on the other side—that having respectively many infirmities of their own to be overlooked, they must overlook the infirmities of each other."'-Lord Stowell.



A LARGE portion of the miseries of mankind, in a pecuniary point of view, are brought on by themselves. One cause may be found in a restless disposition. Some men try every kind of business by turns, become master of none, and necessarily make a sacrifice at every change. They fly every way to get wealth, and overtake poverty before they are aware of its proximity. Had they begun coblers, and stuck to the awl-all would have been well. The people of our country are more fickle in business, than those of any other.

Mrs. Restless has a kind husband, docile children, and a competence. Her neighbor, Mrs. Stylish, has a wealthy, surly, snappish husband; but is surrounded by splendid furniture, and rides in a carriage. Mrs. Restless envies her pomp, and would be glad to be in her situation; and Mrs. Stylish envies, in turn, the other fair lady, because she has a kind husband, and is not troubled with the parade of wealth. Both are unhappy, because discontented. Farmer A. and Merchant B., both well off, imagine a change in business and location, from country to city, and from city to country, will enhance their happiness, and increase their wealth. They try it, and soon make shipwreck of their wealth, and sigh for former comforts, now beyond their reach. Had they let well enough alone, all would have been well.

Another cause may be found in the indulgence of artificial and imaginary wants. More expensive dresses, more delicate food, more costly furniture, the comfortable plain carriage must give place to a coach-none of which add to real comfort, perhaps the reversehave ruined thousands.

Trying to purchase the reputation of wealth in the opinion of others, by living beyond their means, has landed many a family on the bleak shores of poverty. These exhibit more folly than the preceding characters.

A greedy ambition and impatience after wealth, often brings poverty down upon a man, like an avalanche of snow. Rash speculation often does the work in short order.

An indulgence in the pleasures, fashions, vices, and follies of the day, is the greatest source of self-created misfortunes, which are neither few or light. . To avoid these misfortunes, the first grand requisite is, to become truly pious, and live in the favor of our great Benefactor. Be temperate-govern your desires and passions-be on good terms with the world, and those around you—spend all your time usefully-make no enemy or lose no friend carelessly—be cheerful and contented—despise not small gains-never be led astray by delusive prospects of sudden wealth mind your own business, only when charity calls you to interfere and aid others-avoid the extremes of avarice and prodigality-use the world as not abusing it-take a pew and family newspaper-use and pay for them both-and live in a full belief of, and put your trust in that BEING who rules wisely, and cease creating misfortunes; they will come fast enough without your artificial aid.



A LARGE portion of man and womankind, are sadly destitute of this important branch of knowledge. I will particularize but four classes. The avaricious and miserly man renders himself, and those within his power, miserable, by making too much of money. He becomes an idolator, and violates the law of God, and of common humanity.

The spendthrift runs into the opposite erroneous extreme, and by not placing a sufficiently high estimate on money, to induce him to use it prudently, he makes it the means of his speedy ruin, by wasting it in extravagant foolish expenditures, perhaps in the indulgence of sensual and vicious pleasure.

We have a third class of persons, who would make good use of this necessary evil, if they knew the relative value of money, and the things to be purchased with it. Our country is flooded with land sharks, who are on the alert to rob all who can be deceived. Unless we know the worth of the article to be purchased, there are many who will charge twice or four times its value—for those persons are excellent physiognomists and phrenologists, and can tell a green horn, man or woman, half a square off.

Those who are confined within the walls of a seminary, from childhood to the time they commence life for themselves, are those who suffer most from an utter destitution of a knowledge of the value of things. From their books, they learn that money has been treated with contempt by the learned and wise, and are erroneously led to believe that money, instead of an inordinate love of it, is the root of all evil. They have had no means of learning the worth of things, and, with a highly polished classical education, they are more ignorant of the common concerns of life, indispensably necessary to prepare them to live, than a huckster boy but ten years old. It is a cruel error in our system of education, not to adopt some plan, that will prepare our young men to live, as well as shine, when they arrive at their majority. If, during vacation, boys were put to active business, real work, and the girls in the kitchen, and both often taken on shop and market, instead of pleasure excursions, it would do much towards curing the evil. To be safe against imposition, we must be well acquainted with the common concerns and business of life. They are not taught in our seminaries, and must be learned somewhere, sooner or later. If this indispensable part of education is postponed to man and womanhood, it is then acquired at a dear, often ruinous price.

The fourth class is composed of those who make money the standard of reputation and merit-a limb of that baneful aristocracy, that is increasing in our

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