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charity, should; cover a multitude of sins; and there is no room for malice in the heart which harbours that amiable guest. Interpret favourably, then, every incident that provokes your disgust: if obliged to complain, do it gently and dispassionately, and gladly receive the first acknowledgment as a very sufficient atonement; nor vainly and obstinately insist on her şubmitting first. Depend upon it, the most obstinate of the two is the most foolish; and it will be to your credit, that the odds of wisdom should be on your side. To say the truth, no woman would marry if she expected to be a slave, and there can be no freedom where there is no will : in all trifling matters, then, leave her to her own discretion; it will be of advantage to you on more important occasions, and she will cheerfully forbear interfering in your province, if she finds herself undisturbed in her own.
As to what remains, have būt one table, one purse, and one bed; either separate, will be attended with separate interests ; and there cannot be too many ties to strengthen an union, which, though intended to last for life, is of such a cobweb nature, as frequently to wear out before the honey-moon is over.
I shall conclude my observations on these domestic matters, by advising you to be modest in the furniture of your house, and not over luxutious in your bills of fare: let there be always р
such plenty, that, if any accidental guest drop in, you need not blush at, or apologize for, the scantiness of his entertainment; but let there be no superfluity at your own table, or waste at your servants'. Even when you entertain, which, in these times of difficulty, should be as seldom as possible, do not swell out the bill of one day to such an exorbitant size as to niake a reduction of your expences necessary for a month to come ; but remember, that your whole life ought to be of a piece, and though you may entertain a lord, a tradesman must pay the expence: neither think it beneath you to be your own caterer; it will save you many pounds at the year's end, and your kitchen will be much better supplied into the bargain.
A maxim of the same prudent nature, is, to go to market always with ready money; for, whoever runs in debt for provisions, had better borrow at ten per cent. and will find it easier to balance his accompts.
To which may be added, that such idle profusion only excites envy in your inferiors, hatred in your equals, and indignation in your superiors; who are, moreover, apt to think, that every extraordinary article in your bill of fare is made
for by an additional charge in their bills; and, therefore, will be inclined, with a certain witty duke, to deal with one who hardly affords himself necessaries, and dine with you.
Of the Education of your Children.
With respect to the education of your children, you cannot be too particular and conscientious : recollect the precepts here presented to you for the conduct of your future life, and you cannot be at a loss to render them wise, honest, and thriving
First, take care of their health; then their morals; and, finally, of having them so instructed in general learning, as to enable them, with your assistance and advice, to make their way successfully through life. Under which last head, I recommend it to you, in the most earnest manner, not only to make them scholars, or even gentlemen, in case your fortune will afford the means, but men of business too : it is the surest way to preserve an estate when got, amass together money enough to purchase one, or keep the wolf of paverty from the door, in case of misfortunes. How many
descendants of ancient citizens have we seen ruined by the neglect of this rule, who, introduced early into polite life, have been even ashamed of their origin, and would, if possible, have disowned their fathers, to whose industry and indulgence they were indebted for the very means of living idly and prodigally; the only title they had to be ranked among the gentry !
Of Respect, Gratitude, and Attention to Parents;
Humanity and Kindness to Individuals, and Love for our Country.
Honour thy father and thy mother, that thy days may be long in the land, which the Lord thy God giveth thee! EXODUS.
I NEED not, I hope, inform you, ingenuous youth that the above is the Fifth of those Ten Commandments which your God himself, in the midst of awful thunder and lightning, delivered in charge from Mount Sinai to the ancestors of the Jews, his favourite people, to be by them observed and kept as the summary of his will and law.
The solemnity of this scene was, beyond expression, great; for, with the thunder and lightning, there was also a thick cloud upon the Mount, and the voice of a trumpet exceedingly loud, so that all the people in the camp trembled, and were then brought forth by Moses to meet their God, standing at the nether part of the Mount : and Mount Sinai was altogether in a smoke, because the Lord descended upon it in fire; and the smoke thereof ascended as the smoke of a furnace, and the whole Mount quaked greatly.
It was under such awful circumstances that God spake these words, that the adorable Creator himself deigned to communicate his orders to his astonished people ; and you may from hence form some judgment of the weight and importance thus attached to the particular commandment here. quoted for your consideration, and which is further augmented by its being the only one of the ten accompanied with a promise, viz. “ That thy days may be long in the land,” &c.
It is in general observed, that undutiful children seldom succeed in life, or ever live to be respected and esteemed, and that their own offspring usually retaliate upon them double fold, for the sorrows they caused to their parents. Absalom's case, recorded in scripture, is a striking instance of the providential punishment of an undutiful and rebellious son ; for, as he was flying before the victorious army of his father David, headed by Joab, his hair caught in the branch of a tree, and he remained suspended till his pursuers came up and dispatched him, even at the risque of offending their King; so much hurt were they at this instance of filial ingratitude !
The ignorance and weakness of the infant state requires that the influence of parents should be very powerful, in order to lay the mind more open to instruction and culture : therefore Nature hath wisely planted deep, in the tender frame, the principles of submission to parents, a' proneness to imitation, and willingness to listen to the opinian and judgment of those whom we esteem wiser or P 3