respectful denial of whatever he held to be false or in bad taste; and if his sense of respect for himself was invaded, he distinctly and promptly resented the affront. He did not conform to the princely refinements of Chesterfield, nor the shining accomplishments of the Count d'Orsay; but there was in his bearing all the delightful pleasantry of Lafayette, the polished wit of Franklin, the winning seriousness of Jefferson, the brilliant intellectuality of the younger Adams, and the independence of Washington.

While these may be regarded as models of good taste and refinement, it is not expected that every one can imitate them.

Few have had occasion to consult so much circumspection, or have been so much in the fashionable world as the persons referred to, but every one has judgment and discretion sufficient to see that, as a matter of self-respect, and to avoid prejudices against himself, it is his policy to maintain towards strangers the most exemplary and unaffected simplicity of speech and deportment; to avoid contradiction, vain and supercilious behavior, and on no account to speak of himself, or anything that concerns his private affairs; to listen, not talk; not to say anything against any one, or call in question the motives, persuasions, and conduct of any one.

The propensity of the vain is to attract attention amongst strangers. They assume a pompous air, affect to be wise and grand, dress foppishly and extravagantly, talk loudly to each other in personal and ambiguous abstractions, and generally make themselves not more conspicuous than ridiculous, whereas a true gentleman or lady will carefully avoid all such vapid

exposures.

The art of being genteel and civil is simple and easy. It requires a small amount of the forbearance to others that we constantly impose upon ourselves. We wander over the world in rigid self-denial, and voluntarily subject ourselves to every exposure and privation for wealth and fame; and may we not to others yield a modicum of love?

It may not be said that this circumspection will mar social intercourse, for no safe or comfortable personal interchanges can be had without them, and it is far the better that there should be no intercourse than that which makes trouble.

The stringent exercise of these rules proceeds from the erroneous and mistaken delusion that the standard of our merits is above that of others.

and selfish to hold ourselves above them.

A neglect of these wholesome regulations with oversteps the limits of the occasion which brings us and turns the interview into an embarrassing effort both for abrupt sociability; and if the spasmodic feel mutual, one plays the blockhead, while the other suff trusion. A man is no more bound to have his tim thoughts obtruded upon by untimely, prolonged, and for visits, than he is required to have his house or his abused. And, to hold one by the button in the co rain, and press upon him an uninvited colloquy, is a to push him from his right seat at a public place, or him in the street, or to puff cigar-smoke into his face

There is with some an itching and ridiculous incl make the society of those they think above them. I vantage be wealth, they may be mistaken.

Nothing is so uncertain as the reputation of being we are sure the person is rich, it is degrading to bow

If it be learning, morals or intellect, there may mistake; and if not so, we may seek that which appreciate. The secret of all good breeding is, to pre for his conversation, and suffer no one to annoy u course is not so essential as is supposed; there is to it; and hence come strife and bickerings. Out of th our familiar friends, we should not be so free, nor per to be so with us, as to exceed the limits of appropria sation upon indifferent subjects, or of such matters a belong to the occasion.

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There are topics of general interest that may and adverted to, to preface business and precede depa further is wholly unnecessary.

We all talk too much. We should think twice a once, and keep a bridle on our tongue. This is a discretion.

With our friends be free and unreserved, but eve be merciful, and let them not be deluged by words a There is, perhaps, no habit that so soon exposes

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no one has any more right to invade them rupt him in their peaceable enjoyment, with his wardrobe, or his wife and childre

No one can ask excuse, or claim ignora of common law, acknowledged by all the An omnibus-boy will chide the imper passenger by the rebuke, "That man don Let him alone, or leave the coach."

In private life, at a ball or other place o without an open disregard of propriety, m crust of non-acquaintance without introduc for business or just excuse; and with fema her previous consent.

It may be asked, how anything can be and fair? It creates no obstacles to prop the contrary, it guards, purifies, and secu social intercourse.

Every one has an undeniable right to h best possible use of, his intellectual and so it were money or any other thing of valu

If, in an honorable way, we can obtain confidence of those whose learning and and improve our condition, it is as legiti to use harmless and lawful means to attrac to our occupations and pursuits.

The careful and skillful employment of cautions leads individual enterprise in ev substantial and permanent results; and delicately appropriated to the preliminari happy concurrences of age, family-blood, fortune, there is a capital in the copartners

or wastes.

What fruitions must inevitably atten when heterogeneous mating blooms in gl

These chaste and wholesome rules for s times superseded by incidents that excus

of society to be trifled with.

UUMAVA UN

They are not intended to rebuke the honorable social intercourse, but to encourage its legitimate ind diffusion; to conform its exercise and spread to la will secure confidence and mutual respect. On the there is too little safe and lasting sociability for lack o currency. The mediums of exchange are at heavy disc often spurious and counterfeit. Unless there is some some introduction, we fear to take for good each othe Let the currency be sound, and bear upon its face and certainty of truth, and its bright and virgin purit the hearts of all.

Let these wise and simple rules govern. Abridge love for gain and glory; diminish the useless and gaud tries of houses, furniture and dress; devote more tim lectual culture, refreshing exercise, social intercourse, and love; conspire to drive off temptations, vice, and blend labor with cheerfulness, and gladden life with mirth and joy.

There is a proper regard for all the formalities of understood and prudently observed by all discreet an persons. True benevolence and good manners dem every one kindness and courtesy, but no more.

"The powers of the human mind are of greater ex is generally imagined. He who, either from taste or exercises them frequently, soon finds that the highest of which our nature is capable reside entirely within The wants of life are, for the greater part, merely Had we courage to seek our happiness in ourselves, frequently find in our own breasts a greater variety of than all outward objects are capable of affording."

"A long life may be passed without finding a friend understanding and virtue we can equally confide, a opinion we can value at once for its justness and sing weak man, however honest, is not qualified to judge of the world, however penetrating, is not fit to counsel are often chosen for similitude of manners, and ther

palliates the other's failings because they are his own

gous; their fate and ours are linked toget our cords of love without cutting theirs our blood, and the tie should be preser sacred faith.

When these affections are absent, there feelings left. No mercy, no charity, no 1 In all these essential elements of mental the women far excel the men. They ar ricious, and intractable; they are more una loyal, temperate, and domestic; they seld and not misled by the other sex.

And if all the courts, elections, politic public meetings and private convocation conducted that their mothers, wives, and da to witness them, there would be an end t ing, riot and murder.

Again.-Bad manners consist not only conduct, and conversation, but in the d unjust intentions and purposes of the hea

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