I can marry a man whose only means of support is an aged father. I can marry a man who boasts that any girl can be won with the help of a good tailor and an expert tongue. I can marry such a man, but I w-o-n-t!"

A duck of a man generally makes a goose of a husband, so it is wise to choose a husband who has sterling qualities of heart and character. "Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature," or on any mere outward appearance so much as on that inner man that will make or mar your happiness and character. "Are the young ladies of the present day fit for wives?" asked a lecturer of his audience. "They are fit for husbands," responded a feminine voice; "but the difficulty is that you men are not fit for wives." The Rev. Philip Henry used to say to his children, with reference to their choice in marriage-"Please God and please yourselves, and you shall never displease me;" and greatly blamed those parents who concluded matches for their children without their consent. He sometimes mentioned the saying of a pious gentlewoman who had many daughters-"The care of most people is how to get good husbands for their daughters; but my care is to fit my daughters to be good wives, and then let God provide for them." May I refer to the fourth and fifth chapters of my book, "How to be Happy though Married,” where an attempt has been made to save people from taking a leap in the dark? What is marriage but a leap in the dark, when physical beauty is esteemed above spiritual beauty, and when external possessions are desired more than internal treasures? When sensuality, selfishness, vanity, ambition,

are the evil genii which bring the sexes together, what can we expect but discord and misery; diseases of mind and body; broken vows; broken hearts; the infernal marriage of the evil and the false, and the awful shadows of hell projected upon earth? That husbands and wives exercise special transforming or modifying influences upon each other, is a truth of daily experience and of incalculable value. Mind whom you marry, for you will never be the same that you were before. You will unconsciously absorb another life into your own, and the two currents will blend in your character and conduct. If your husband be a refined and good man, he will make you refined and good if of an opposite character

"Thou shalt lower to his level day by day,

What is fine within thee growing coarse to sympathize with clay,
As the husband is, the wife is; thou art mated with a clown,
And the grossness of his nature will have weight to drag thee down."

So it is also with the man. The will of the woman attaches itself to his will, and endeavours, with inconceivable subtlety and power, to make it absolutely one with itself. Hence the purifying, spiritualizing influence of a good and noble woman. Hence also the fearfully demoralizing, darkening, and deadening power of an evil woman over man.

"Her pleasures are in lovers coy :

When hers, she gives them not a thought,
But, like the angler, takes more joy

In fishing than in fishes caught."-Brooklyn Magazine.

"Think not, the husband gained, that all is done,

The prize of happiness must still be won;

And oft the careless find it to their cost;
The lover in the husband may be lost;
The graces might alone his heart allure;
They and the virtues meeting must secure.'

AVING caught our hare we proceed to cook it. Having married the right sort of husband, how should a woman manage him? The first thing to be settled is whether it is

ever right for a wife who has vowed to obey her husband to attempt to manage him. That, we should say, depends upon the character of the husband and of the wife. If a man be weak and easily led, he will be managed by some one, and if his wife do not lead him right, bad friends and bad passions will lead him wrong.

What makes it sound badly to speak of managing a husband is the fact that too many wives only manage their husbands for selfish purposes. If their sole object were to make the most of them it would be all right, but sometimes what they aim at is to make the most out of them. Manœuvres, crafty ways, wily little concealments, insidious flatterings and coaxings with an object-these miserable and not very honourable means a good wife is sometimes almost forced to use in order to make her bad husband do his duty; but they are also used by wives who have not bad husbands, and who are therefore without excuse. Husbands are selfish enough, but they have not a monopoly in this bad quality: they share it with their wives. "I can do what I like with my husband," said a young wife. "How?" "When he won't do what I like, I just take to bed. The other day I wanted twenty pounds, and he would only give me ten, so I took to bed, and that soon brought him to his senses." Is this the cause of the prevalency of the "sofa disease" amongst ladies?

Wives would manage their husbands better if they did not forget the arts they used to please them when these husbands were only their lovers. Before marriage, a girl speaks to her lover with her eyes; after marriage, with her tongue, and in other respects her manner is generally less winning.

It is, however, a great mistake to yield up everything to a husband's whims, and become the humble slave of his caprices. The woman who does this without gaining more of her lord's love loses his respect. He becomes a bully, and

in his heart despises and dislikes the weak simpleton who allowed him to do so.

What is the best way of managing a husband who has a chronic bad temper, and is eternally finding fault? This is the very difficult problem which many a poor woman has to solve in her everyday life. We should say that it is well to make this amiable being clearly understand that exhibitions of temper do not frighten or the least bit impress you. Above all do not "pip and whine and go trembling," for if you once appear frightened, and say that you do not know what to do, all influence will be gone. In menageries the men who go into the cages of the lions are never hurt by their savage occupants, unless for some reason or other they lose nerve and show fear. We do not mean to insinuate that many husbands are wild beasts, or that wives should jump them through hoops, and put them through irritating performances before strangers, but there is an ape and a tiger in each of us, and the wife who would really help her husband to move upward and work out the beast must be careful not to let him lose his respect for her. Make him see from the first that you are not a fool, and that you cannot be trifled with.

The barracks occupied by the regiment of which I have spiritual charge having to be repaired, the men of the regiment were put under canvass. As the wives and children of the married soldiers could not well live in tents for three months, they were accommodated in a neighbouring fort. Here there were only a few rooms, but as they were very large, two women with their children had to live together in