The Verbally Abusive RelationshipIn this fully expanded and updated second edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life. In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse--and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior--from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse. Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse--and the abuser. This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time! |
Common terms and phrases
abuser says abuser's reality abusive anger abusive behavior accept accusation and blame Alice Miller anger addict angry awareness battering Bert boundaries categories of verbal chapter child childhood coffee cake communication confusion Cora countering crazymaking Curt denial deny discounted discuss dominance Ernie never example experience explain express fear felt frustrated happy hear hope hostile ideal image interaction joke kind look Luke manipulation mate mate's mean mutuality name calling never one's pain partner believes partner may recognize partner's feelings partners of verbal patriarchy perceptions Personal Power physical abuse poisonous pedagogy problem rage Reality II self-esteem realize recognize verbal abuse responsibility rience seems sense set limits share shocked spirit is diminished spirit is nourished spond stop talk tell therapist things thought told trying to understand uncon upset verbally abusive relationship victim woman women wondered wrong yelled