Violent Partners: A Breakthrough Plan for Ending the Cycle of AbuseA radical new take on the crisis of intimate abuse, Violent Partners argues that as a culture we misunderstand the root causes and basic effects of abuse, and until that changes there is no hope of fixing the problem. Dr. Linda Mills challenges assumptions, tears down myths, and offer solutions, all the while telling riveting stories of couples who have conquered violence in their relationships. In Violent Partners, she describes several programs that hold promise for addressing intimate abuse, including two nationally known and groundbreaking treatment programs-Peacemaking Circles and Healing Circles. Controversial, provocative, and accessible, Violent Partners is unlike any other book on abuse and relationships, and highlights in great detail the complexities of violence through the stories of men and women who have acknowledged their abuse and sought to do something about it. This is essential reading for anyone seeking to understand violence in their own relationship, friends and family members of victims and abusers, and legal and mental health practitioners looking for a new and valuable approach to treating couples in crisis. |
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... happening to another man. Finally, his employer helped him face the truth. James and Kate's intense relationship was marked by screaming arguments. After they decided to have a baby, the tensions between them increased. During one fight ...
... happening to another man. Finally, his employer helped him face the truth. James and Kate's intense relationship was marked by screaming arguments. After they decided to have a baby, the tensions between them increased. During one fight ...
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... happened to me? I became preoccupied by the apparent contradiction between my ostensible power and my moments of extreme vulnerability. As I struggled to integrate these dissonant parts of my character and my past, I began to think ...
... happened to me? I became preoccupied by the apparent contradiction between my ostensible power and my moments of extreme vulnerability. As I struggled to integrate these dissonant parts of my character and my past, I began to think ...
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... happening to me. He was one of my closest friends. When Dudley lifted himself up slightly, only to press down harder ... happened between us would never happen to me again. Next time—if there was a next time—I would be smarter. I would ...
... happening to me. He was one of my closest friends. When Dudley lifted himself up slightly, only to press down harder ... happened between us would never happen to me again. Next time—if there was a next time—I would be smarter. I would ...
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... happened would make it all go away. College. and. Graduate. School. Although the University of California, Irvine, was located just an hour from Beverly Hills, it was another world. I straightened out and started getting serious about my ...
... happened would make it all go away. College. and. Graduate. School. Although the University of California, Irvine, was located just an hour from Beverly Hills, it was another world. I straightened out and started getting serious about my ...
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... myself withdrawing. A few days later, David came to my house to talk about what happened. He apologized and said he didn't know what came over him. He asked for forgiveness. I found this outright apology, with no excuses, very.
... myself withdrawing. A few days later, David came to my house to talk about what happened. He apologized and said he didn't know what came over him. He asked for forgiveness. I found this outright apology, with no excuses, very.
Contents
ENLARGING THE FRAME | |
PART TWO A New Understanding | |
WHERE DOES INTIMATE ABUSE COME FROM? | |
THE DYNAMICS OF INTIMATE ABUSE | |
PART THREE New Approaches | |
THE NEW GRASSROOTS MOVEMENT | |
THE POWER OF THE GROUP | |
PART FOUR A New Vision | |
HEALING CIRCLES | |
Acknowledgements | |
Bibliography | |
Index | |
SITUATIONAL COUPLE VIOLENCE | |
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Violent Partners: A Breakthrough Plan for Ending the Cycle of Abuse Linda G. Mills No preview available - 2009 |
Violent Partners: A Breakthrough Plan for Ending the Cycle of Abuse Linda G. Mills No preview available - 2009 |
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