Violent Partners: A Breakthrough Plan for Ending the Cycle of Abuse

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Basic Books, Sep 8, 2009 - Family & Relationships - 298 pages
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A radical new take on the crisis of intimate abuse, "Violent Partners" argues that as a culture we misunderstand the root causes and basic effects of abuse, and until that changes there is no hope of fixing the problem. Dr. Linda Mills challenges assumptions, tears down myths, and offer solutions, all the while telling riveting stories of couples who have conquered violence in their relationships. In "Violent Partners," she describes several programs that hold promise for addressing intimate abuse, including two nationally known and groundbreaking treatment programs-Peacemaking Circles and Healing Circles. Controversial, provocative, and accessible, "Violent Partners" is unlike any other book on abuse and relationships, and highlights in great detail the complexities of violence through the stories of men and women who have acknowledged their abuse and sought to do something about it. This is essential reading for anyone seeking to understand violence in their own relationship, friends and family members of victims and abusers, and legal and mental health practitioners looking for a new and valuable approach to treating couples in crisis.
  

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User Review  - Emily - Goodreads

Provocative. As a trauma therapist, her analysis of the roots of violence in the shame of childhood victimization rang true for me. Read full review

Review: Violent Partners: A Breakthrough Plan for Ending the Cycle of Abuse

User Review  - M Woods - Goodreads

Excellent book from a dynamic, empowering person. This is a must read for all who want to know about domestic violence (causes, triggers) and ways of dealing with it that are healing and restorative to the families impacted by it. Met her and it was truly and enlightening experience! Read full review

Contents

Early Years
College and Graduate School
My Own Personal Feminism
The Way We Were
The Crusade
New Explanations for AgeOld Questions
How Far Weve Come
Unintended Consequences
The Alliance
The Childhood
The Dynamic
The Dialogue
Nora and Bailey Richmond
Staying or Leaving
Where Do We Go from Here?
Stop Abuse for Everyone

So Who Is the Criminal Justice System Working For?
Unrepentant Perpetrators
Ungrateful Victims
Silencing the Battered Woman
What Next? Criminal Justice Reform and Beyond
Escaping to Freedom versus Escaping to Prison
Snapshots at the Crime Scene
Brenda Aris as Battered Woman
The Batterer as Victim
The Different Faces of Violence
Rick and Brenda Forever The Beginning
Rick and Brenda Forever The End
The Deeper Dimensions of Violence
The Spectrum of Abuse
Who Gets to Define Intimate Abuse?
How Violent Is the American Family?
Are Women as Violent as Men?
The Feminist Backlash Against Those Who Speak Up
The Next Generation
The Web of Violence
What Role Does Culture Play?
Who Becomes Violent and Why?
How Can Shame Lead to Violence?
The Triggering Event
Who Is Attracted to Violence and Why?
Damage Seeking Damage
How Hard Is It to Escape a Violent Past?
Lucretia Aris
Who Started It versus Blaming the Victim
What Influences a Violent Dynamic?
Mining the Layers of Aggression
What Does Violence Say?
Not All Violent Dynamics Are the Same
The Lethal Consequences of Psychological Abuse
The Price of Staying Together
Them and Us
The Counselors
The Danger
Violence Anonymous
Family Wellness Program New York City
Support Without Judgment
The Marriage and Family Therapy Program Virginia
The Northwest Network Washington
How Far Can the Criminal Justice System Take Us?
The Lessons of 911
Retributive versus Restorative Justice
Circles and Domestic Violence
Putting Theory into Practice
A Vision Becomes a Reality
Setback or Transition?
The Menendez Family
Humanizing the Criminal Justice System
Breaking the Chain
What Makes Change Possible?
A New Understanding
New Approaches
Lessons from South Africa
The Question of Forgiveness
The Political Is Personal
PROGRAMS
THERAPISTS AND RELATED PROFESSIONALS
RESOURCES FOR PRACTITIONERS
INTRODUCTION
A BRIEF HISTORY OF THE BATTERED WOMENS MOVEMENT ENORMOUS STRIDES AND UNEXPECTED CONSEQUENCES
ENLARGING THE FRAME COMPLICATING OUR PERSPECTIVES ON SEVERE ABUSE
WHERE DOES INTIMATE ABUSE COME FROM?
THE DYNAMICS OF INTIMATE ABUSE
SITUATIONAL COUPLE VIOLENCE
COUPLES COUNSELING
THE POWER OF THE GROUP
MY POLITICAL ENCOUNTERS WITH INTIMATE ABUSE
HEALING CIRCLES
ENDING THE CYCLE OF ABUSE
ARTICLES BOOKS REPORTS
CASES AND CONGRESSIONAL TESTIMONY
STATUTES

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