Violent Partners: A Breakthrough Plan for Ending the Cycle of AbuseA radical new take on the crisis of intimate abuse, Violent Partners argues that as a culture we misunderstand the root causes and basic effects of abuse, and until that changes there is no hope of fixing the problem. Dr. Linda Mills challenges assumptions, tears down myths, and offer solutions, all the while telling riveting stories of couples who have conquered violence in their relationships. In Violent Partners, she describes several programs that hold promise for addressing intimate abuse, including two nationally known and groundbreaking treatment programs-Peacemaking Circles and Healing Circles. Controversial, provocative, and accessible, Violent Partners is unlike any other book on abuse and relationships, and highlights in great detail the complexities of violence through the stories of men and women who have acknowledged their abuse and sought to do something about it. This is essential reading for anyone seeking to understand violence in their own relationship, friends and family members of victims and abusers, and legal and mental health practitioners looking for a new and valuable approach to treating couples in crisis. |
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... father; Betty has come to recognize her own aggression in the marriage. Of all the victims, Brenda paid the highest price to escape her abuse: she ended up in prison. But she was fortunate enough to take advantage of the therapeutic ...
... father; Betty has come to recognize her own aggression in the marriage. Of all the victims, Brenda paid the highest price to escape her abuse: she ended up in prison. But she was fortunate enough to take advantage of the therapeutic ...
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... father's violence. (“I adored my father. My mother was a shrew.”) She also explained that fourteen years before the trial, her fiancé had been shot to death in a liquor store robbery; the gunman had never been caught. In the paper I ...
... father's violence. (“I adored my father. My mother was a shrew.”) She also explained that fourteen years before the trial, her fiancé had been shot to death in a liquor store robbery; the gunman had never been caught. In the paper I ...
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... father was a doctor, and my mother worked for her father. I saw them as overly materialistic and focused on the importance of getting ahead. Despite my straight A's in school, I had my own vision of success, and it didn't involve ...
... father was a doctor, and my mother worked for her father. I saw them as overly materialistic and focused on the importance of getting ahead. Despite my straight A's in school, I had my own vision of success, and it didn't involve ...
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... father had left his mother, and he lived in a small onebedroom apartment on the south side of town. I was curious to know more about a world so different from my own. I was also eager to lose my virginity, and choosing a boyfriend who ...
... father had left his mother, and he lived in a small onebedroom apartment on the south side of town. I was curious to know more about a world so different from my own. I was also eager to lose my virginity, and choosing a boyfriend who ...
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... be smarter. I would get away. Often my father would ask me why I never saw Dudley anymore. He was puzzled as to why two best friends suddenly never spoke or went out together. “We don't have anything in common,” I finally replied. Both.
... be smarter. I would get away. Often my father would ask me why I never saw Dudley anymore. He was puzzled as to why two best friends suddenly never spoke or went out together. “We don't have anything in common,” I finally replied. Both.
Contents
ENLARGING THE FRAME | |
PART TWO A New Understanding | |
WHERE DOES INTIMATE ABUSE COME FROM? | |
THE DYNAMICS OF INTIMATE ABUSE | |
PART THREE New Approaches | |
THE NEW GRASSROOTS MOVEMENT | |
THE POWER OF THE GROUP | |
PART FOUR A New Vision | |
HEALING CIRCLES | |
Acknowledgements | |
Bibliography | |
Index | |
SITUATIONAL COUPLE VIOLENCE | |
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Violent Partners: A Breakthrough Plan for Ending the Cycle of Abuse Linda G. Mills No preview available - 2009 |
Violent Partners: A Breakthrough Plan for Ending the Cycle of Abuse Linda G. Mills No preview available - 2009 |
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