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Why Marriages Succeed Or Fail:

And How You Can Make Yours Last
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Simon and Schuster, Jun 1, 1995 - Family & Relationships - 240 pages
If You Love Your Mate but Your Marriage Seems to Be Off Track, Then This Book Is for You

Psychologist John Gottman has spent 20 years studying what makes a marriage last. Now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen, and maintain your own long-term relationship. This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage.

You'll also learn:

* More sex doesn't necessarily improve a marriage

* Frequent arguing will not lead to divorce

* Financial problems do not always spell trouble in a relationship

* Wives who make sour facial expressions when their husbands talk are likely to be separated within four years

* There is a reason husbands withdraw from arguments -- and there's a way around it

Dr. Gottman tells you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage -- contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling -- and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce, and -- Why Marriages Succeed or Fail will show you how.

  

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Well researched information about marriage. - Goodreads
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Dr. Gottman bases his advice on 20 years of research. - Goodreads

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User Review  - Allyson - Goodreads

This book has an amazing amount of vital information for not only married couples, but anyone in a long term relationship. I first read it in 2002 and felt a revisiting of it's maxims might be ... Read full review

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User Review  - Alyssa Stukenbroeker - Goodreads

John Gottman is brilliant and for an aspiring family therapist his books are inspirational and insightful. As a divorcee, the information is so deeply valuable. Truly helps you make decisions not simply based on emotional impulse and gets into the science of relationships. Read full review

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Contents

Preface
11
The Good The Bad
32
FOUR Your Private Thoughts Become Cast in Stone
103
His and Hers
137
The Diagnosis
162
SEVEN The Four Keys to Improving Your Marriage
173
EIGHT Strengthening the Foundations
202
Acknowledgments
232
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About the author (1995)

John M. Gottman, Ph.D., whose breakthrough study of 2,000 married couples over two decades resulted in this book, is renowned for his ability to predict -- with 94 percent accuracy -- which people will stay married and which will divorce. He is a professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle.

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